As I sat in the park after my morning cycling, my wife came and slumped next to me.
She had completed her one-hour brisk walk. We chatted for a while. She said she is feeling good after her morning walk, the brightest spot of the day. What about the rest of the day? I looked up at her with sheer disbelief since she seemed to have the best of everything in life.
“Why only the morning walk?”
“I don’t know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, but I am not happy.
“Then I questioned myself, am I happy through the day? “No,” was my inner voice reply.
Now, that was an eye-opener for me.
I began my quest to understand the real cause of my unhappiness. Has the life become very boring with the routine, mundane work?
I dug deeper, read articles, spoke to friends who have been in my life for long, life coaches but still searching for answers. At last my doctor friend gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest. I have been implementing those realizations and will say I am a lot happier person.
She said, there are four hormones which determine a human’s happiness –
It is important we understand these hormones, as we need all four of them to stay happy.
Let’s look at the first hormone the Endorphins.
When we exercise, the body releases Endorphins.
This hormone helps the body cope with the pain of exercising. We then enjoy exercising because these Endorphins will make us happy.
Laughter is another good way of generating Endorphins.
We need to spend 30 minutes exercising every day, read or watch funny stuff to get our day’s dose of Endorphins.
The second hormone is Dopamine.
In our journey of life, we accomplish many little and big tasks, it releases various levels of Dopamine.
When we get appreciated for our work at the office or at home, we feel accomplished and good, that is because it releases Dopamine.
This also explains why most housewives are unhappy since they rarely get acknowledged or appreciated for their work. Once, we join work, we buy a car, a house, the latest gadgets, a new house so forth. In each instance, it releases Dopamine and we become happy.
Now, do we realize why we become happy when we shop?
The third hormone Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others.
When we transcend ourselves and give back to others or to nature or to the society, it releases Serotonin. Even, providing useful information on the internet like writing information blogs, answering people’s questions on Quora or Facebook groups will generate Serotonin.
That is because we will use our precious time to help other people via our answers or articles.
The final hormone is Oxytocin, is released when we become close to other human beings.
When we hug our friends or family Oxytocin is released. The “Jadoo Ki Jhappi” from Munnabhai does really work.
Similarly, when we shake hands or put our arms around someone’s shoulders, various amounts of Oxytocin is released, so also when we make love.
So, it became simple,
- I will exercise every day to get Endorphins,
- I shall accomplish little goals and get Dopamine,
- I will be nice to others to get Serotonin and
- Finally, I shall hug our kids, friends, and family members to get Oxytocin
and that keeps me happy.
When we are happy, we can deal with our challenges and problems better.
Now, we can understand why we need to hug a child who has a bad mood.
So, to make your child more and more happy day by day …
1. Motivate her to play on the ground – Endorphins; I go cycling with her every day!
2. Appreciate your child for her small, big achievements – Dopamine gets pumped!
3. Inculcate sharing habit through you to your child – Serotonin; Help her share her books, toys!
4. Hug your child and share high-fives for every small deeds – Oxytocin flows!
Have a Happy Life.